Inter-Course: Analingus anyone?
Dear Keltie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for many years now. We’ve experimented with anal sex and I like it. I’ve read that anal penetration can be really pleasurable for men too, so I’d like my man to try it, but I’m not sure how to go about it, and I’m worried he’s going to flat-out say no. Any suggestions?
Dear Worried,
All you have to do is wait until he’s about to come and then stick your finger in his ass . . . well, sort of.
It’s true that anal penetration can often be very pleasurable for men due to their prostate glands being in close proximity to their rectums. But it’s also true most guys I’ve known, even the really open-minded ones, are very nervous about anyone touching their bum holes. As far as I can tell, it’s some ridiculous idea that somehow indulging in anal play makes them gay.
Anyway, the best way to go about it is to slowly introduce a little tongue action to the area. Next time you’re going down on your man, try licking his perineum—the place between his balls and his sphincter—while stroking the shaft of his penis with your hand. Trust me, he’ll like it.
At this point, if you’re feeling adventurous, you can start to make your way further south and try licking him where the sun don’t shine. Depending on how he reacts, you might have to stop here and let him get used to the idea for a while. Going too fast with any of this may freak him out and that’ll be the end of that, so just take it slow.
If, at any point, he expresses discomfort with what’s happening, stop what you’re doing and try again another time. But if he goes for the tonguing, then you can start to play around the area with your finger. I’m not talking penetration here, just a little light, circular stroking.
Keep licking his perineum and balls. At this point you may want to make sure your finger is well lubricated with spit, so that when he starts to come, you can easily, but not too forcefully, insert your finger into his rectum.
He’ll be too distracted by his orgasm to put up much of a fight, and chances are it’s going to feel really, really good once it’s all happening. Afterwards, he may feel a little insecure about having had his man-cave explored for the first time, so be sure to give him lots of love and let him know how turned on you got pleasuring him.
Basically, reassure him that you still think he’s a big, strong, un-gay heartthrob. Good luck, and happy plundering.
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